When someone in the family has to say or teach anything less obedience may be a talk with a friend or someone else too, to see other people's more important. The words of the family are not important.
When the family was said or what was not taught to obey. It may be a friend or someone else too. The importance of the others. Word of the family is not important.
When family members speak or teach something don't obey. It may be because the talk to friends or other people too much. To see the importance of others. The words of the family has no significance.