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Sin Sod – What You Should Pay To Marry Your Thai Girlfriend
Not too long ago a forum update email dropped into my inbox from one of the major Thai forums. The leading tittle thread was regarding Sin Sod, sometimes written Sin Sot, and read “Huge Dowry Demanded After Short Relationship With Thai Woman.”

The story was of a guy that had met a 42 year old woman online, and after one month of dating was asking for 500,000 Baht marriage. While the advice given was sound, i.e. he should seriously consider his position because it smacks of extortion, a debate ensued regarding Sin Sod, the money paid to a Thai woman’s family by the groom during the marriage ceremony.

Sin Sod – A Debate of Conflict

You will find a huge amount of misleading information online regarding Sin Sod, and conflicting experiences can be found plastered all over forums and blogs. So, when a foreigner comes to marry a Thai lady and the inevitable subject of Sin Sod arises, it is no surprise that he becomes confused and desperate to know what he should be paying and why he is expected to pay it. Moreover, Thai women often don’t explain the concept of Sin Sod very well, which isn’t at all surprising considering that for them it’s just a normal tradition and an age-old part of Thai culture.

Fortunately I am lucky enough to have a cross-section of Thai friends from varying backgrounds, and being the nosey parker I am, over the last few years have endeavoured to collect as much information from my friends regarding this tradition as possible. There is no more a reliable source than Thai people themselves, and like many Thai customs, I find that foreigners have a gross misconception of what Sin Sod is all about. After reading the thread mentioned above, I decided that with the help of my Thai friends I would compile a post documenting all things Sin Sod, with the aim of helping foreigners better understand this custom.

I am not by any means saying that the information in this post is entirely definitive or historically factual, however, what I can say is that the information comes from the horses’ mouth, as it were, and the words of three of my good Thai friends. The opinion of my own girlfriend much concurs with what is said, and I have personal experience through her sister’s marriage to a Thai guy.

What Sin Sod Is Not

Firstly let’s get one thing straight: Sin Sod is not a dowry. You are not buying a woman or approaching her family to buy her. Foreigners have a habit of instantly taking the negative viewpoint that Sin Sod equates to dowry and the purchasing of a Thai bride. It really isn’t, and should be considered as more of an expected gift. To fully understand the tradition you need to put the word “dowry” out of your mind, not least because any suggestion of purchasing their daughter will be very offensive to your Thai girlfriend’s family.

What Is Sin Sod?

There are generally three reasons for the payment of Sin Sod; they are as foll- โฆษณาแฝง -sw22wi2 -:

1. Traditionally, the eldest unmarried daughter takes care of her parents until she gets married, and therefore the Sin Sod in some respects replaces that income for the parents. As you might know, it is common for an average woman to send a portion of her salary to her parents each month. After marriage this will stop, so as you can imagine, for parents with no pension plan and little savings, the Sin Sod is a much needed payday. Now you can see why richer families don’t usually accept this payment or expect it, quite simply because they don’t need it.

2. The structure of Thai society makes it very hard for a Thai woman to find a man of decent stature once she has been married with kids, and therefore the Sin Sod acts as an insurance for the woman should the man desert her, perhaps leaving her with kids. Women don’t walk away with half of everything like they do in Europe. If a woman finds herself back at home as a single mother there will be some money/land/investment in the family to support mother, child and family. Thai society also dictates that the older a Thai woman gets the harder it becomes for her to find a job, let alone a well-paid one. So again, should she find herself alone in the future at least the family will have some money put by for some inevitably rainy years.

3. Where poorer families are concerned Sin Sod is a repayment for the money invested in their daughter. Many families sell land, borrow money and generally go without to put their kids through university or to simply put food on the table; the Sin Sod is essentially a repayment for that investment. The amount paid for Sin Sod could be considered relative to that investment.

Who Pays Sin Sod?

Any man marrying a Thai woman is expected to pay Sin Sod. The price is usually agreed between the two families, yet where a foreigner is concerned he will be expected to ask the family how much they are expecting.

Who Doesn’t Pay Sin Sod?

In the modern day many families don’t expect Sin Sod and many will tell the boyfriend that they don’t want any money. However, it is rare that money isn’t shown at the wedding, albeit that it is fully returned afterwards.

*It should be noted that to expect the money back or to ask for it back is unacceptable. One will be offered it back if that is to be the case.

*Also note that you may not be required to pay Sin Sod if the woman you are marrying has been married before. See the section below for more details.

How Much Should I Be Paying For Sin Sod?

This depends on six factors, as listed and discussed below:

Family Name
Education
Prior Marital Status
Dependants
Job
Age
1. If your girlfriend is from a well-to-do family you could be looking at a fair lump, however, in this situation the money will most likely be for show and be returned after the wedding.

2. If a woman is university educated or beyond then you will be looking at 200,000 Baht +. This is a low-moderate amount by modern day Thai standards. For example, a friend at my girlfriend’s work is soon to marry a Thai lady who finished her education at high school level; he is paying 200,000 Baht. His salary is probably about 25,000 per month.

3. If your girlfriend has been married before then you will definitely pay less. You might argue that you shouldn’t be paying at all. However, as a respectful gesture and to show your respect you should offer something. Remember that marriage is intended to happen once in Thai culture, and therefore the emphasis is on marrying for the first time in Thailand. Unlike second and third marriages in the west, which may be seen as equally as important and “true love” matches, in Thailand they are not that much of a big deal.

4. If your girlfriend has kids then you will definitely pay less. This stems from the age-old thinking that she is tainted in some way, already given to another man if you like. You will become responsible for another man’s seed, and for that you shouldn’t be paying for the privilege. (Not my words I might add)

5. Job wise it’s as simple as this: banker gets more cleaner gets less. This correlates with education and earnings.

My Girlfriend Is Asking For Too Much

Many foreigners find themselves in this position, and it isn’t necessarily that your girlfriend is trying to con you, although it might well be a little deceitful. What she is trying to do is secure face for her family. To marry a foreigner with a Sin Sod of less than 200,000 Baht would be quite a loss of face, not just for her but also for you.

The fact that she is marrying a foreigner will mean tongues wagging in the village, so when you say, “What! No way, I am not paying to marry you”, or you announce a payment less than what an average Thai guy earning 10-15k a month would pay, you get branded a “Farang kee-nock” (literally translated as bird sh*t foreigner, but refers to a poor lower class foreigner), or “Keniiow” (stingy). The folks in the village will have a good laugh, “Why is she marrying a foreigner when he can’t afford to pay anymore than one of us folk”. Yes, unfortunately most Thais believe, as most westerners do, that Thai women only marry foreigners for financial security, unless of course the Thai woman is richer or as wealthy as the foreigner.

Anyway. Don’t take your girlfriend’s word for it is the point here, because the tradition is that you are supposed to ask the mother and father the amount they want for Sin Sod. It is not for the woman to tell the man what she wants. So as a foreigner approach the parents and ask politely in Thai. They will probably say one of two things:

1. “Oh no, mai pen rai, we don’t want anything”.

2. “It’s up to you”.

The first answer doesn’t mean you say, “Okay, great”, and go and buy a new car. By answering in this way they are exercising their “grengjai”. They are being polite. What they actually mean is, “Tell us what you WANT to pay, and you will be able to tell by our behaviour whether we think it’s okay or not”. So basically you need to make out you really want to pay. As you can see, this all falls in nicely with Thai style.

The second answer means, “What do you want to pay… but don’t insult me”!

*It should be noted that some families might genuinely want nothing at all.

I Hate This Talk Of Money – It All Seems So Shallow

Yes, and for the most part, particularly in the village, it is. Sin Sod is largely about face. “Look at my daughter, she went to university and married a good man with a good job”. Or even, “Look at my daughter, she didn’t go to university but she is so beautiful and hardworking that she married a lovely rich foreign guy”.

As

The story was of a guy that had met a 42 year old woman online, and after one month of dating was asking for 500,000 Baht marriage. While the advice given was sound, i.e. he should seriously consider his position because it smacks of extortion, a debate ensued regarding Sin Sod, the money paid to a Thai woman’s family by the groom during the marriage ceremony.

Sin Sod – A Debate of Conflict

You will find a huge amount of misleading information online regarding Sin Sod, and conflicting experiences can be found plastered all over forums and blogs. So, when a foreigner comes to marry a Thai lady and the inevitable subject of Sin Sod arises, it is no surprise that he becomes confused and desperate to know what he should be paying and why he is expected to pay it. Moreover, Thai women often don’t explain the concept of Sin Sod very well, which isn’t at all surprising considering that for them it’s just a normal tradition and an age-old part of Thai culture.

Fortunately I am lucky enough to have a cross-section of Thai friends from varying backgrounds, and being the nosey parker I am, over the last few years have endeavoured to collect as much information from my friends regarding this tradition as possible. There is no more a reliable source than Thai people themselves, and like many Thai customs, I find that foreigners have a gross misconception of what Sin Sod is all about. After reading the thread mentioned above, I decided that with the help of my Thai friends I would compile a post documenting all things Sin Sod, with the aim of helping foreigners better understand this custom.

I am not by any means saying that the information in this post is entirely definitive or historically factual, however, what I can say is that the information comes from the horses’ mouth, as it were, and the words of three of my good Thai friends. The opinion of my own girlfriend much concurs with what is said, and I have personal experience through her sister’s marriage to a Thai guy.

What Sin Sod Is Not

Firstly let’s get one thing straight: Sin Sod is not a dowry. You are not buying a woman or approaching her family to buy her. Foreigners have a habit of instantly taking the negative viewpoint that Sin Sod equates to dowry and the purchasing of a Thai bride. It really isn’t, and should be considered as more of an expected gift. To fully understand the tradition you need to put the word “dowry” out of your mind, not least because any suggestion of purchasing their daughter will be very offensive to your Thai girlfriend’s family.

What Is Sin Sod?

There are generally three reasons for the payment of Sin Sod; they are as foll- โฆษณาแฝง -sw22wi2 -:

1. Traditionally, the eldest unmarried daughter takes care of her parents until she gets married, and therefore the Sin Sod in some respects replaces that income for the parents. As you might know, it is common for an average woman to send a portion of her salary to her parents each month. After marriage this will stop, so as you can imagine, for parents with no pension plan and little savings, the Sin Sod is a much needed payday. Now you can see why richer families don’t usually accept this payment or expect it, quite simply because they don’t need it.

2. The structure of Thai society makes it very hard for a Thai woman to find a man of decent stature once she has been married with kids, and therefore the Sin Sod acts as an insurance for the woman should the man desert her, perhaps leaving her with kids. Women don’t walk away with half of everything like they do in Europe. If a woman finds herself back at home as a single mother there will be some money/land/investment in the family to support mother, child and family. Thai society also dictates that the older a Thai woman gets the harder it becomes for her to find a job, let alone a well-paid one. So again, should she find herself alone in the future at least the family will have some money put by for some inevitably rainy years.

3. Where poorer families are concerned Sin Sod is a repayment for the money invested in their daughter. Many families sell land, borrow money and generally go without to put their kids through university or to simply put food on the table; the Sin Sod is essentially a repayment for that investment. The amount paid for Sin Sod could be considered relative to that investment.

Who Pays Sin Sod?

Any man marrying a Thai woman is expected to pay Sin Sod. The price is usually agreed between the two families, yet where a foreigner is concerned he will be expected to ask the family how much they are expecting.

Who Doesn’t Pay Sin Sod?

In the modern day many families don’t expect Sin Sod and many will tell the boyfriend that they don’t want any money. However, it is rare that money isn’t shown at the wedding, albeit that it is fully returned afterwards.

*It should be noted that to expect the money back or to ask for it back is unacceptable. One will be offered it back if that is to be the case.

*Also note that you may not be required to pay Sin Sod if the woman you are marrying has been married before. See the section below for more details.

How Much Should I Be Paying For Sin Sod?

This depends on six factors, as listed and discussed below:

Family Name
Education
Prior Marital Status
Dependants
Job
Age
1. If your girlfriend is from a well-to-do family you could be looking at a fair lump, however, in this situation the money will most likely be for show and be returned after the wedding.

2. If a woman is university educated or beyond then you will be looking at 200,000 Baht +. This is a low-moderate amount by modern day Thai standards. For example, a friend at my girlfriend’s work is soon to marry a Thai lady who finished her education at high school level; he is paying 200,000 Baht. His salary is probably about 25,000 per month.

3. If your girlfriend has been married before then you will definitely pay less. You might argue that you shouldn’t be paying at all. However, as a respectful gesture and to show your respect you should offer something. Remember that marriage is intended to happen once in Thai culture, and therefore the emphasis is on marrying for the first time in Thailand. Unlike second and third marriages in the west, which may be seen as equally as important and “true love” matches, in Thailand they are not that much of a big deal.

4. If your girlfriend has kids then you will definitely pay less. This stems from the age-old thinking that she is tainted in some way, already given to another man if you like. You will become responsible for another man’s seed, and for that you shouldn’t be paying for the privilege. (Not my words I might add)

5. Job wise it’s as simple as this: banker gets more cleaner gets less. This correlates with education and earnings.

My Girlfriend Is Asking For Too Much

Many foreigners find themselves in this position, and it isn’t necessarily that your girlfriend is trying to con you, although it might well be a little deceitful. What she is trying to do is secure face for her family. To marry a foreigner with a Sin Sod of less than 200,000 Baht would be quite a loss of face, not just for her but also for you.

The fact that she is marrying a foreigner will mean tongues wagging in the village, so when you say, “What! No way, I am not paying to marry you”, or you announce a payment less than what an average Thai guy earning 10-15k a month would pay, you get branded a “Farang kee-nock” (literally translated as bird sh*t foreigner, but refers to a poor lower class foreigner), or “Keniiow” (stingy). The folks in the village will have a good laugh, “Why is she marrying a foreigner when he can’t afford to pay anymore than one of us folk”. Yes, unfortunately most Thais believe, as most westerners do, that Thai women only marry foreigners for financial security, unless of course the Thai woman is richer or as wealthy as the foreigner.

Anyway. Don’t take your girlfriend’s word for it is the point here, because the tradition is that you are supposed to ask the mother and father the amount they want for Sin Sod. It is not for the woman to tell the man what she wants. So as a foreigner approach the parents and ask politely in Thai. They will probably say one of two things:

1. “Oh no, mai pen rai, we don’t want anything”.

2. “It’s up to you”.

The first answer doesn’t mean you say, “Okay, great”, and go and buy a new car. By answering in this way they are exercising their “grengjai”. They are being polite. What they actually mean is, “Tell us what you WANT to pay, and you will be able to tell by our behaviour whether we think it’s okay or not”. So basically you need to make out you really want to pay. As you can see, this all falls in nicely with Thai style.

The second answer means, “What do you want to pay… but don’t insult me”!

*It should be noted that some families might genuinely want nothing at all.

I Hate This Talk Of Money – It All Seems So Shallow

Yes, and for the most part, particularly in the village, it is. Sin Sod is largely about face. “Look at my daughter, she went to university and married a good man with a good job”. Or even, “Look at my daughter, she didn’t go to university but she is so beautiful and hardworking that she married a lovely rich foreign guy”.

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Sin Sod – What You Should Pay To Marry Your Thai GirlfriendNot too long ago a forum update email dropped into my inbox from one of the major Thai forums. The leading tittle thread was regarding Sin Sod, sometimes written Sin Sot, and read "Huge Dowry Demanded After Short Relationship With Thai Woman."The story was of a guy that had met a 42 year old woman online, and after one month of dating was asking for 500,000 Baht marriage. While the advice given was sound, i.e. he should seriously consider his position because it smacks of extortion, a debate ensued regarding Sin Sod, the money paid to a Thai woman's family by the groom during the marriage ceremony.Sin Sod – A Debate of ConflictYou will find a huge amount of misleading information online regarding Sin Sod, and conflicting experiences can be found plastered all over forums and blogs. So, when a foreigner comes to marry a Thai lady and the inevitable subject of Sin Sod arises, it is no surprise that he becomes confused and desperate to know what he should be paying and why he is expected to pay it. Moreover, Thai women often don't explain the concept of Sin Sod very well, which isn't at all surprising considering that for them it's just a normal tradition and an age-old part of Thai culture.Fortunately I am lucky enough to have a cross-section of Thai friends from varying backgrounds, and being the nosey parker I am, over the last few years have endeavoured to collect as much information from my friends regarding this tradition as possible. There is no more a reliable source than Thai people themselves, and like many Thai customs, I find that foreigners have a gross misconception of what Sin Sod is all about. After reading the thread mentioned above, I decided that with the help of my Thai friends I would compile a post documenting all things Sin Sod, with the aim of helping foreigners better understand this custom.I am not by any means saying that the information in this post is entirely definitive or historically factual, however, what I can say is that the information comes from the horses' mouth, as it were, and the words of three of my good Thai friends. The opinion of my own girlfriend much concurs with what is said, and I have personal experience through her sister's marriage to a Thai guy.What Sin Sod Is NotFirstly let's get one thing straight: Sin Sod is not a dowry. You are not buying a woman or approaching her family to buy her. Foreigners have a habit of instantly taking the negative viewpoint that Sin Sod equates to dowry and the purchasing of a Thai bride. It really isn't, and should be considered as more of an expected gift. To fully understand the tradition you need to put the word "dowry" out of your mind, not least because any suggestion of purchasing their daughter will be very offensive to your Thai girlfriend's family.What Is Sin Sod?There are generally three reasons for the payment of Sin Sod; they are as foll-phantom ads-sw22wi2:1. Traditionally, the eldest unmarried daughter takes care of her parents until she gets married, and therefore the Sin Sod in some respects replaces that income for the parents. As you might know, it is common for an average woman to send a portion of her salary to her parents each month. After marriage this will stop, so as you can imagine, for parents with no pension plan and little savings, the Sin Sod is a much needed payday. Now you can see why richer families don't usually accept this payment or expect it, quite simply because they don't need it.2. The structure of Thai society makes it very hard for a Thai woman to find a man of decent stature once she has been married with kids, and therefore the Sin Sod acts as an insurance for the woman should the man desert her, perhaps leaving her with kids. Women don't walk away with half of everything like they do in Europe. If a woman finds herself back at home as a single mother there will be some money/land/investment in the family to support mother, child and family. Thai society also dictates that the older a Thai woman gets the harder it becomes for her to find a job, let alone a well-paid one. So again, should she find herself alone in the future at least the family will have some money put by for some inevitably rainy years.3. Where poorer families are concerned Sin Sod is a repayment for the money invested in their daughter. Many families sell land, borrow money and generally go without to put their kids through university or to simply put food on the table; the Sin Sod is essentially a repayment for that investment. The amount paid for Sin Sod could be considered relative to that investment.Who Pays Sin Sod?Any man marrying a Thai woman is expected to pay Sin Sod. The price is usually agreed between the two families, yet where a foreigner is concerned he will be expected to ask the family how much they are expecting.Who Doesn't Pay Sin Sod?In the modern day many families don't expect Sin Sod and many will tell the boyfriend that they don't want any money. However, it is rare that money isn't shown at the wedding, albeit that it is fully returned afterwards.*It should be noted that to expect the money back or to ask for it back is unacceptable. One will be offered it back if that is to be the case.*Also note that you may not be required to pay Sin Sod if the woman you are marrying has been married before. See the section below for more details.How Much Should I Be Paying For Sin Sod?This depends on six factors, as listed and discussed below:Family NameEducationPrior Marital StatusDependantsJobAge1. If your girlfriend is from a well-to-do family you could be looking at a fair lump, however, in this situation the money will most likely be for show and be returned after the wedding.2. If a woman is university educated or beyond then you will be looking at 200,000 Baht +. This is a low-moderate amount by modern day Thai standards. For example, a friend at my girlfriend's work is soon to marry a Thai lady who finished her education at high school level; he is paying 200,000 Baht. His salary is probably about 25,000 per month.3. If your girlfriend has been married before then you will definitely pay less. You might argue that you shouldn't be paying at all. However, as a respectful gesture and to show your respect you should offer something. Remember that marriage is intended to happen once in Thai culture, and therefore the emphasis is on marrying for the first time in Thailand. Unlike second and third marriages in the west, which may be seen as equally as important and "true love" matches, in Thailand they are not that much of a big deal.4. If your girlfriend has kids then you will definitely pay less. This stems from the age-old thinking that she is tainted in some way, already given to another man if you like. You will become responsible for another man's seed, and for that you shouldn't be paying for the privilege. (Not my words I might add)5. Job wise it's as simple as this: banker gets more cleaner gets less. This correlates with education and earnings.My Girlfriend Is Asking For Too Much Many foreigners find themselves in this position, and it isn't necessarily that your girlfriend is trying to con you, although it might well be a little deceitful. What she is trying to do is secure face for her family. To marry a foreigner with a Sin Sod of less than 200,000 Baht would be quite a loss of face, not just for her but also for you.The fact that she is marrying a foreigner will mean tongues wagging in the village, so when you say, "What! No way, I am not paying to marry you", or you announce a payment less than what an average Thai guy earning 10-15k a month would pay, you get branded a "Farang kee-nock" (literally translated as bird sh*t foreigner, but refers to a poor lower class foreigner), or "Keniiow" (stingy). The folks in the village will have a good laugh, "Why is she marrying a foreigner when he can't afford to pay anymore than one of us folk". Yes, unfortunately most Thais believe, as most westerners do, that Thai women only marry foreigners for financial security, unless of course the Thai woman is richer or as wealthy as the foreigner. Anyway. Don't take your girlfriend's word for it is the point here, because the tradition is that you are supposed to ask the mother and father the amount they want for Sin Sod. It is not for the woman to tell the man what she wants. So as a foreigner approach the parents and ask politely in Thai. They will probably say one of two things:1. "Oh no, mai pen rai, we don't want anything".2. "It's up to you".The first answer doesn't mean you say, "Okay, great", and go and buy a new car. By answering in this way they are exercising their "grengjai". They are being polite. What they actually mean is, "Tell us what you WANT to pay, and you will be able to tell by our behaviour whether we think it's okay or not". So basically you need to make out you really want to pay. As you can see, this all falls in nicely with Thai style.The second answer means, "What do you want to pay... but don't insult me"! *It should be noted that some families might genuinely want nothing at all. I Hate This Talk Of Money – It All Seems So ShallowYes, and for the most part, particularly in the village, it is. Sin Sod is largely about face. "Look at my daughter, she went to university and married a good man with a good job". Or even, "Look at my daughter, she didn't go to university but she is so beautiful and hardworking that she married a lovely rich foreign guy".As

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Sin Sod - What You Should pay To Marry Your Thai Girlfriend
Not Too long ago a Forum update email dropped Into My Inbox from One of The Major Thai forums. The Leading tittle Thread was regarding Sin Sod, sometimes written Sin Sot, and read "Huge. Dowry Demanded After Short Relationship With Thai Woman. " The Story was of a Guy that had met a 42 year Old Woman online, and After One month of dating was Asking for 500,000 Baht Marriage. While The Advice Given was sound, IE He should Seriously. consider His position Because it smacks of extortion, a debate ensued regarding Sin Sod, The Money paid to a Thai Woman's Family by The Groom during The Marriage ceremony. Sin Sod - A Debate of Conflict You Will Find a huge amount of misleading information online regarding. Sin Sod, and conflicting experiences can be found plastered all over forums and blogs. So, when a foreigner comes to marry a Thai lady and the inevitable subject of Sin Sod arises, it is no surprise that he becomes confused and desperate to know what he. should be paying and why he is expected to pay it. Moreover, Thai women often do not explain the concept of Sin Sod very well, which is not at all surprising considering that for them it's just a normal tradition and an age-old. Part of Thai Culture. Fortunately I AM Lucky Enough to Have a Cross-Section of Thai friends from varying Backgrounds, and being The nosy Parker I AM, over The Last few years Have endeavored to collect As much information from My friends regarding this Tradition As. possible. There is no more a reliable source than Thai people themselves, and like many Thai customs, I find that foreigners have a gross misconception of what Sin Sod is all about. After reading the thread mentioned above, I decided that with the help of. My Thai friends I would compile a post documenting all Things Sin Sod, with The AIM of Helping Foreigners Better Understand this Custom. I AM Not by any means saying that The information in this post is entirely definitive or Historically Factual, however, What I Can. say is that the information comes from the horses' mouth, as it were, and the words of three of my good Thai friends. The opinion of my own girlfriend much concurs with what is said, and I have personal experience through her sister's marriage to. a Thai Guy. What Sin Sod Is Not Firstly let's Get One Thing straight: Sin Sod is Not a Dowry. You are Not Buying a Woman or approaching Her Family to Buy Her. Foreigners Have a habit of instantly Taking The Negative Viewpoint that Sin Sod. equates to dowry and the purchasing of a Thai bride. It really is not, and should be considered as more of an expected gift. To fully understand the tradition you need to put the word "dowry" out of your mind, not least because. any suggestion of purchasing their Daughter Will be very offensive to your Thai girlfriend's Family. What Is Sin Sod? There are generally Three Reasons for The payment of Sin Sod; they are passive advertising Foll- As -sw22wi2 -: 1. Traditionally, The eldest. unmarried daughter takes care of her parents until she gets married, and therefore the Sin Sod in some respects replaces that income for the parents. As you might know, it is common for an average woman to send a portion of her salary to her parents each. month. After marriage this will stop, so as you can imagine, for parents with no pension plan and little savings, the Sin Sod is a much needed payday. Now you can see why richer families do not usually accept this payment or expect it. , Need Not Quite Simply Because they do it. 2. The structure of Thai Society for a Thai Woman Makes it very Hard to Find a MAN of decent stature once SHE has been Married with Kids, and The Sin Sod Therefore Acts As an Insurance. for the woman should the man desert her, perhaps leaving her with kids. Women do not walk away with half of everything like they do in Europe. If a woman finds herself back at home as a single mother there will be some money / land. / investment in the family to support mother, child and family. Thai society also dictates that the older a Thai woman gets the harder it becomes for her to find a job, let alone a well-paid one. So again, should she find herself. The Future at least alone in Family Will Have The Money Put some by for some inevitably Rainy years. 3. Where are Poorer Families Concerned Sin Sod is a Repayment for The Money invested in their Daughter. Many Families sell Land, and generally borrow Money Go. Without to Put their Kids Through University or to Simply Put Food on The Table; The Sin Sod is essentially a Repayment for that Investment. The amount paid for Sin Sod could be considered relative to that Investment. Who Pays Sin Sod? Any MAN marrying a. Thai Woman is expected to pay Sin Sod. The Price is usually Agreed between The Two Families, yet Where a Foreigner is Concerned He Will be expected to ask The Family How much they are expecting. Who Does Not Sin Sod pay? In The Modern. Families do many Day Not Expect Sin Sod and many Boyfriend Will tell that they do Not Want The Money any. However, it is Rare that Money is Not shown at The Wedding, albeit that it is Fully Returned afterwards. * It should. be noted that to Expect The Money back or to ask for it back is unacceptable. One Will be Offered it back IF that is to be The Case. * Also note that You May Not be Required to pay Sin Sod IF The Woman You are marrying. Before Married has been. See The Section Below for more details. How Much Should I Be Paying For Sin Sod? This depends on Six factors, and discussed As Listed Below: Family Name Education Prior Marital Status Dependants Job Age 1. If your girlfriend is. Well-to-do from a Family You could be Looking at a Fair lump, however, in this situation The Most Money Will likely be for show and be Returned After The Wedding. 2. If a Woman is University educated or You Will Beyond then. be looking at 200,000 Baht +. This is a low-moderate amount by modern day Thai standards. For example, a friend at my girlfriend's work is soon to marry a Thai lady who finished her education at high school level; he is paying 200,000 Baht. . His Salary is Probably About 25,000 Per month. 3. If your girlfriend has been Married Before then You Will definitely pay less. You Might Not argue that You should be paying at all. However, Gesture As a respectful and to show your Respect. you should offer something. Remember that marriage is intended to happen once in Thai culture, and therefore the emphasis is on marrying for the first time in Thailand. Unlike second and third marriages in the west, which may be seen as equally as important and ". true Love "Matches, in Thailand they are Not that much of a Big Deal. 4. If your girlfriend has definitely Kids Will You then pay less. This stems from The Age-Old thinking that SHE is in some Tainted Way, Already Given to. another MAN IF You like. You Will Become Responsible for another MAN's Seed, and for that You should Not be paying for The Privilege. (Not My Words I Might Add) 5. Job Wise it's As Simple As this: Banker Gets more Cleaner. Gets less. This correlates with Education and earnings. My Girlfriend Is Asking For Much Too Many Foreigners Find themselves in this position, and it is Not necessarily that your girlfriend is trying to con You, although it Might be a Little Well deceitful. What. SHE is trying to do is Secure Face for Her Family. To Marry a Foreigner with a Sin Sod of less than 200,000 Baht would be Quite a Loss of Face, Not Just for Her but also for You. The Fact that SHE is marrying a Foreigner. will mean tongues wagging in the village, so when you say, "What! No way, I am not paying to marry you", or you announce a payment less than what an average Thai guy earning 10-15k a month would pay, you. get branded a "Farang kee-nock" (literally translated as bird sh * t foreigner, but refers to a poor lower class foreigner), or "Keniiow" (stingy). The folks in the village will have a good laugh, "Why. is she marrying a foreigner when he can not afford to pay anymore than one of us folk ". Yes, unfortunately most Thais believe, as most westerners do, that Thai women only marry foreigners for financial security, unless of course the Thai woman is. Richer or As Wealthy As The Foreigner. Anyway. Do Not Take your girlfriend's Word for it is The Point here, Because The Tradition is that You are supposed to ask The Mother and Father The amount they Want for Sin Sod. It is Not for. The Woman The MAN What SHE Wants to tell. So As a Foreigner Approach The Parents and Politely ask in Thai. They Probably Will Say One of Two Things: 1. "Oh no, Mai pen Rai, anything we do Not Want". 2. "It's up to You". The First answer does Not mean You Say, "Okay, Great", and Go and Buy a New Car. By Answering in this Way they are exercising their "Grengjai". They are being Polite. . What they actually mean is, "Tell us what you WANT to pay, and you will be able to tell by our behaviour whether we think it's okay or not". So basically you need to make out you really want to pay. As you. Can See, this all in Falls Nicely with Thai style. The Second answer means, "What do You Want to pay ... but do Not Insult ME"! * It should be noted that some genuinely Families Might Want Nothing at all. I Hate. this Talk Of Money - It All Seems So Shallow Yes, and for The Most Part, particularly in The Village, it is. Sin Sod is largely About Face. "Look at My Daughter, SHE Went to University and Married a good MAN with a. good Job ". Or Even," Look at My Daughter, Go to University but SHE did Not So Beautiful and hardworking that SHE SHE is a lovely rich Foreign Married Guy ". As.

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Sin Sod - What You Should Pay To Marry Your Thai Girlfriend
Not too long ago a forum update email dropped into my inbox. From one of the major Thai forums. The leading tittle thread was regarding Sin Sod sometimes written, Sin Sot and read,, "Huge Dowry Demanded After Short Relationship With Thai Woman."

The story was of a guy that had met a 42 year old woman. Online.And after one month of dating was asking, for 500 000 Baht marriage. While the advice given, was sound i.e. He should seriously. Consider his position because it smacks of extortion a debate, ensued regarding Sin Sod the money, paid to a Thai woman s. ' Family by the groom during the marriage ceremony.

Sin Sod - A Debate of Conflict

.You will find a huge amount of misleading information online regarding Sin Sod and conflicting, experiences can be found. Plastered all over forums and blogs. So when a, foreigner comes to marry a Thai lady and the inevitable subject of Sin Sod. Arises it is, no surprise that he becomes confused and desperate to know what he should be paying and why he is expected. To pay, Moreover it.Thai women often don 't explain the concept of Sin Sod very well which isn', t at all surprising considering that for them. It 's just a normal tradition and an age - old part of Thai culture.

Fortunately I am lucky enough to have a cross-section. Of Thai friends from varying backgrounds and being, the nosey parker, I amOver the last few years have endeavoured to collect as much information from my friends regarding this tradition as, possible. There is no more a reliable source than Thai people themselves and like, many Thai customs I find, that foreigners have. A gross misconception of what Sin Sod is all about. After reading the thread, mentioned aboveI decided that with the help of my Thai friends I would compile a post documenting all things, Sin Sod with the aim of. Helping foreigners better understand this custom.

I am not by any means saying that the information in this post is entirely. Definitive or, historically factual however what I, can say is that the information comes from the horses', mouth as it. Were.And the words of three of my good Thai friends. The opinion of my own girlfriend much concurs with what is said and I,, Have personal experience through her sister 's marriage to a Thai guy.

What Sin Sod Is Not

Firstly let s get one thing.' Straight: Sin Sod is not a dowry. You are not buying a woman or approaching her family to buy her.

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